Whether you’re a bride or groom, with a fiancé or fiancée, what does that mean for your same sex first wedding dance? Overall, there is no difference at all! Same sex first dances are exactly the same as male/female first dances. The same goes for a couple where one or both of you identify as non-binary. Your first dance is about the two of you, taking to the dance floor together for the first time as a married couple. Love Is Love & Dance Is Dance.

To have an amazing first dance, all engaged couples need to do is choose a first dance song and book wedding dance lessons. This process is the same whether you are marrying a groom, a bride or someone who doesn’t identify as either of those two labels.

First Dance Songs For Gay Couples

A quick Google search will show tons of blogs about LGBTQ+ first dance songs. This is great, as often the LGBTQ+ community isn’t represented enough in the wedding industry. However, when it comes to choosing your first dance song, does sexuality, gender or stereotype come into it? The best first dance song for you will be one that is special to you as a couple. Some couples have an ‘our’ song, but if not, you can sit down together and write a list. Use ideas evoked from happy memories or songs that remind you of each other.

There are definitely not ‘first dance songs for straight couples’ and ‘first dance songs for gay couples’. However, some might be lyrically appropriate and only refer to she (for wife & wife to be) or he (for husband & husband to be). There are gender neutral songs, such as Thinking Out Loud by Ed Sheeran, that doesn’t reference to the he/she pronoun.

The LGBTQ+ community has a strong connection to iconic tunes, having greatly influenced the music industry. Many artists have written songs that allow others to feel expressive and liberated. These artists are often popular with same sex couples when choosing their first dance song. To name a few there’s Madonna, David Bowie, Lady Gaga & Elton John.

Same Sex Wedding Dance Lessons

In your wedding dance lessons, you will learn a choreographed dance that to suits your song, ability and natural style. If you choose a traditional dance, there is one question that always comes up – who leads? In a male/female couple, the man will typically be taller than the lady and so he will ‘lead’ the dance. In a lesbian or gay couple you have the beauty of choice. Within your relationship it may be clear who you’d like to lead. Or you might go with whoever is tallest. Or you might decide to take turns at leading. If you didn’t see John & Johannes in Strictly 2021 take a look at them on YouTube. They showed us beautiful variations in leadership, where Johannes led some dances, John led others. In some of their routines, they took turns at leading! Here is one of our favourites where John and Johannes seamlessly switching between leading and being led.

Gay Wedding Dance – A Celebration Of Love

Your first dance shows the gravity of your love in a really celebratory way. It can reflect your personalities and the type of relationship you have. The dance floor is a space that you have creative ownership of. You can choose the mood of the moment with music and lighting. Sadly the reality is that same sex couples may have had more challenges than straight couples. Perhaps not within the current relationship, but possibly with growing up and navigating the path of life. This is why gay wedding dances are so fantastic, they celebrate overcoming all the challenges life has thrown at you. They celebrate your moment, triumphant, ridiculously happy, head over heels in love, married to your perfect person! Music is a huge part of the LGBTQ+ community. Many couples will naturally want to reflect that when they celebrate their love for each other.

Booking Your Wedding Dance Lessons

We are proud to be inclusive and use a gender free Booking Form, suitable for any two people who wish to dance together, whether either of them are female, male or identify as non-binary. We love to how our support of the LGBTQ+ community with Same Sex First Wedding Dance, because equality at the heart of what we do.  

Gay couple dancing after wedding dance lessons in Hove.

Steven and Mark from Hove chose ‘Hold My Hand’ by Jess Glynn for their first dance as husband and husband.